There is a lot of information out there for those of us with curly hair. I have stumbled upon many a helpful bog or video tutorial that has added me in managing my wild hair. In this post I am going to share with you what I have learned and the products I use to tame the frizz and bring out those beautiful curls.
It can be frustrating when you are the only one out of all your friends with curls, least that is my experience. It always seems like they never have a bad hair day and they have a style that is so cute and fits them so well!
38. “Your hairstyle can never really change that much.”
When you have curly hair, style, is something you try to obtain every single day. You see, each day your hair takes on a different personality. There is no repeat of the same hair due. I constantly have to change to manage the fluff. The more you work against your hair the more frustrating it will be. So hang in there my curly haired friends. I have a few tips of my own to share with you!
Surfing Pinterest I recently I ran across this: Article, 43 Things Only Girls With Curly Hair Understand. Click here to follow link.
It is so, so accurate! I love reading these because I don’t feel so alone, I am normal in the curly haired community. I will be posting some quotes (like the one above) from this article.
There are days when I truly hate my hair, there are days when I love it, however most days I try to deal with it. It’s like having hair that has a mind of its own. I style it, wash it, apply to same products to it everyday but my hair still comes out different than the day before.
Why don’t I straighten it everyday? Because that takes time. Being a stay at home mama, I don’t have an hour in which I can stand in front of the mirror. Come to think of it, I have never had that kind of time. Besides, straightening curly hair really drys it out. Dry curly hair is a curse you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy.
39. “Straightening your hair requires at least an hour of time, and even when it’s straight, people still compliment you on your “wavy” hair. Well, at least it’s a step in the right direction.”
Growing up I hated my hair. I always wondered why God gave it to me. I found out later why, it helped me catch the amazing husband I have. He said my hair was one of the first things that attracted him to me. He still loves it to this day. Go figure 😉 I feel like if I knew what I know now, the hatred I had for my hair would have diminished, significantly.
Being the only one in my family growing up with curly hair, besides my mother, I tried to style it, treat it, and beat it into submission. I tried to treat it like all my friends with straight hair because I wanted hair like them. Little did I know I was making it worse and harder on myself.
This image has always been near and dear to my heart…
Makes me laugh every time. You can’t clam to have natural curly hair when the curls start half way down your head. The image below is reality, and my every morning ‘style.’
I don’t loath my hair, it has just taken me a really long time to learn to work with it. I will reiterate, ‘work with it.’
I will now share with you what I have learned over the years. Curly hair is special and needs to be treated as such.
Another one of my favorites 😉
I am going to tell you some interesting things, don’t think me wrong or disgusting because if you don’t have curly hair, you have no right to judge.
Curly Hair Fact:
Curly hair is dry hair. That is what helps gives it is curl.
I have curly hair and I have dryer skin. My sister has straight hair and she has more of an oily skin. I think the two are linked.
If she doesn’t use a good shampoo with lots of lather she has a hard time getting the oil out. I have never had this problem. If I use the same shampoo she does it drys out my hair resulting in a uncontrollable frizzy mess. You know all the bubbles you get when washing your hair. If you have curly hair you don’t want those bubbles because they are taking the little oil you have in your hair, out. How to fix this?
Well, some curly haired girls use no poo. Meaning they don’t shampoo their hair, ever. They rinse it, put a heavy conditioner in it and that is how they wash it. I, on the other hand, always poo my hair. I workout so I sweat just about every morning, and summer here can reslute in 100 degree weather for days on end. So, I use a sulfate free shampoo. It really is amazing stuff!
It gives you less lather but it doesn’t strip your curls of its natural oils. You NEED and WANT those oils in your hair. This was a huge step for me and being able to love my curls.
Growing up my mom bought in bulk from Costco whatever was cheapest for shampoo and conditioner. Having a family of four girls with long hair, she had to find something cheap! After moving out I started to experiment with different hair products. So. Many. Products! Let me just say, if you don’t wash your curls correctly no amount of product is going to help. If you haven’t tried sulfate free shampoo, try some! Today! It will take a while to get the healthy oils back in your hair so maybe try a coconut oil deep conditioning treatment after purchasing your new poo 😉
My Daily Hair Regime:
I will start with my morning shower. I use the sulfate free shampoo by Redken called Curvaceous. I love the smell and it has done wonders with my hair!
I buy the huge bottle and it lasts a while. I purchase it from amazon for around $28 dollars. I will go to Ulta only if they are having a buy one get one free sale.
I get my hair wet, use probably a pump and a half and scrub it into my scalp. I do not scrub the rest of my hair, only my scalp. That’s why I can get away with using so few pumps. As I rinse it out it runs through the rest of my hair cleaning off all the product.
I then apply a very liberal amount of Herbal Essence, Hello Hydration Conditioner.
I don’t like the Redken conditioner as I don’t think its heavy enough. I then rinse out most of the conditioner leaving enough in my hair to still feel a little slick. NEVER rinse out all the conditioner. As I rinse I brush my hair with my fingers. I never use a brush or pick in my hair. Ever. My fingers get all the tangles out. If I am having any problems I will use a brush only during the rinse process but I rarely have a problem.
As I get out of the shower I wrap my hair up in the towel and set it atop my head. Some curly hair girls use T-shirts. You don’t have all those little fiber pieces in a T-shirt that you have in a towel. It really does help with the frizz I have tried it, but it doesn’t get my hair dry enough. It will still be dripping down my back when I take it out, so I go for a towel.
I keep my hair warm. If it gets cold I feel it doesn’t absorb the product I put in. It also seems to stick to my hands pulling on the curls and bringing out the dreaded frizzes.
I put my lotion on, brush my teeth, lotion my face and put some clothes on before taking my towel off. Don’t put lotion on while your hair is down, again it will stick to your body and the more you pull on the curls the more of a mess you are going to have.
Next I take the towel out, and spry my leave in conditioner, Infusium 23 Moisture Replenishment, with a tiny squirt bottle touching my hair as little as possible. This is about $5 dollars at my local store and lasts a while. The squirt bottle I got from the dollar store.
I then put one pump of Sebastian Potion 9 in the palm of my hand AND a pump or two of coconut milk by Organix. Potion 9 (I purchase from amazon and I have found if for as little as $20 a bottle). This bottle here has lasted about six to seven months. A little goes a long way with this stuff. The Moroccan Oil I get from a hair products store like Sally’s Beauty Supply. It smells good, costs about $35 dollars but lasts for a few months.
I ONLY apply this to my hair from the neck down. It would be much to heavy for the hair on top of my head. Scrunch to apply.
7. “Argan oil quite literally changed your life, and now you go through bottles like boyfriends.”
Next I shake up some Argan Oil Mousse. Yes, this has changed my life.
I spray my palm full, transfer it to both hands and start at the bottom of my hair working it up to my scalp. I toss my head from left to right scrunching as I go. Do not run your fingers through your hair, scrunch it! Again, amazon is an amazing place. I have found it for as little as $8.50 a bottle. This is what I go through the quickest, thank goodness its cheap. If it wasn’t, I’d probably buy it anyway.
Next I part it (very carefully using my hands) either down the middle or to the side depending on my mood. I do this with product still on my hands. Next If I want my bangs to stay in a certain position all day long I put them in said position. When it drys it will dry in place. Style it now, not later.
8. “You don’t own a brush. You only have a comb, which you only use on your hair in the shower during the conditioning process.”
15. “You need a minimum of six products in your hair at all times. Four of them cost more than your rent and one of them is illegal in nine states.”
When my hair really starts to dry I will turn my head upside down, shake out the curls, scrunch it a bit and whalla!
If it doesn’t cooperate after all that I will put it up. Pony tail or messy bun. The good thing about curly hair is you can most always pull off the messy bun.
Someday’s when I have to go somewhere in the morning I will take a defuser and blow dry my hair. I never defuse it until its completely dry, you still want it a little damp. Again, start at the ends and work our way up. Some days the results are a little more wild than I’d like, and sometimes it makes my hair look amazing.
16. “You often show up to places with wet hair. What are we supposed to do, wait six to eight hours for it to dry before leaving the house? Let me live my life.”
With curly hair you never can tell. You always have to have a back up plan. And by back up I mean bobby pins and hair things with you at all times 😉
2. “No, you can’t borrow my hair tie. The slightest change in humidity or a strong gust of wind could easily render my hair completely incapable of looking like it belongs on a human.”
So there you have it! The most important lessons to be learned are:
- Sulfate free shampoo is your friend. Get some!
- Do not ever, ever brush your hair unless is in the shower while applying conditioner.
- Leave in conditioner is also your friend.
- The less you touch your hair the better.
- Style when wet unless you are putting it up, then style when damp 😉
These are my tips and tricks. Visit to my pinterest page Everything Hair and you will find some amazing tutorials. These women swear by what they do but remember every one’s curls are different. Take some of their tips and try them out. Just remember the tips I posted above. They are listed in just about every tutorial I have seen. They have helped me the most!
How To Cut Your Hair:
The way your hair is cut also makes a huge difference. Long or short curly hair you want layers! Layers are good, layers are your friend. Say it with me… Layers are good, layers are your friend.
This woman does an excellent job explaining why. Again click here to follow the link.
She swears on short layers but I am currently sporting long layers. I love being able to wear side brads and other hair dues that require longer layers. If you love wearing your hair down I would suggest the shorter layers. If you love styling it in different ways you will find it hard to do with short layers that don’t reach very far. bobby pins are your best friend at that point but it can be tiresome after sticking 50+ of them in your hair. Just my opinion. I would start long and work my way up from there 😉
Remember, work with those curls. Fighting them will get you nowhere. Dare to be different. Dare to let your curls be wild and free! Curls are beautiful! Experiment with them!
It helps me to look at celebrities who sport their natural curls. Look at Shakira, Beyonce, Lorde, and Madonna! They wear them loud and proud!
Hope this helps you! Please look at my pinterest page located here or just go on pinterest and do searches for curly hair tutorials, there are many!